My Letter to the B.I.C.
Dear John,
Let me first say that I'm sincerely sorry I offended you, that was not my intention at all. I do know how well you take care of your possessions, and I was not mocking or belittling you in any sort of way whatsoever. Honestly, I thought that we were all joking around and having a good time, and I spoke my opinion. That is something about me that I can't seem to control.
Jim said he was concerned that you would retire a great player, and I agreed. Apparently "you can't take it with you" was the wrong wording. It wasn't a stab at your religion or beliefs, but I shouldn't have even said it, if I had known the ramifications of those words, I would've thought twice about voicing my opinion.
I know for a fact that Jim jokes with you about your so-called museum of guitars and such, so I didn't think my joking about it would offend you, clearly I was mistaken. I never professed to know more about the music business than you, if I did why would I ask you for guitar lessons?
We have been worried sick about you for the past couple of weeks, in light of the losses of your mother and sister, and when you said you gave that guy one of your guitars, and then traded Jim one for a paint job or two, we were worried. That's why Jim was calling and stopped by, to see if you were still alive. When people give away their prized possessions, it's a red flag that they aren't planning to be around to enjoy them much longer, and yes, I was worried also. I care about you also. I thought you and I had a good relationship, no, we aren't best friends, you and Jim are, but I really like you and thought you felt the same.
I'm sorry if you feel I was butting in, that also wasn't my intention. Please don't take your dislike for me out on Jim, you guys have been friends for way too long for a misunderstanding like this to ruin it. It was a misunderstanding, neither of us meant to offend you.
You probably don't want to hear this, but I have been through the death of a very close parent, my father. No, I'm not saying I know how you feel, we all deal with grief in different ways, but I was angry and super-sensitive all at the same time, so I understand where you are coming from, I think. If you think about it you may realize that cutting off your best friend of 14 years is only going to be one more thing for you to deal with on top of everything else.
You are Jim's best friend, he loves you like a brother, more than a brother, and it would be a shame to end a friendship over this. I'm not trying to minimize your hurt feelings over this situation, but please think about it, would Jim ever say anything intentionally malicious to you?
You obviously don't know me as well as I thought you did, if you think I would say something hurtful on purpose. I don't know anything about music, or playing guitar, or your religion, and I don't presume to. Evidently I offended you deeply, and again, I am sorry. If you and Jim could work this out, I hope that you will. If it's me you have issues with, come over when I'm at work, or Jim could come over there, either way, I don't care, I'm not one to stand in the way of Jim's happiness, and I know playing guitars and hanging out with you makes him happy. I am that sort of person that I would step back and let you two have time to hang out without you having to deal with me.
Sincerely,
Megan
Let me first say that I'm sincerely sorry I offended you, that was not my intention at all. I do know how well you take care of your possessions, and I was not mocking or belittling you in any sort of way whatsoever. Honestly, I thought that we were all joking around and having a good time, and I spoke my opinion. That is something about me that I can't seem to control.
Jim said he was concerned that you would retire a great player, and I agreed. Apparently "you can't take it with you" was the wrong wording. It wasn't a stab at your religion or beliefs, but I shouldn't have even said it, if I had known the ramifications of those words, I would've thought twice about voicing my opinion.
I know for a fact that Jim jokes with you about your so-called museum of guitars and such, so I didn't think my joking about it would offend you, clearly I was mistaken. I never professed to know more about the music business than you, if I did why would I ask you for guitar lessons?
We have been worried sick about you for the past couple of weeks, in light of the losses of your mother and sister, and when you said you gave that guy one of your guitars, and then traded Jim one for a paint job or two, we were worried. That's why Jim was calling and stopped by, to see if you were still alive. When people give away their prized possessions, it's a red flag that they aren't planning to be around to enjoy them much longer, and yes, I was worried also. I care about you also. I thought you and I had a good relationship, no, we aren't best friends, you and Jim are, but I really like you and thought you felt the same.
I'm sorry if you feel I was butting in, that also wasn't my intention. Please don't take your dislike for me out on Jim, you guys have been friends for way too long for a misunderstanding like this to ruin it. It was a misunderstanding, neither of us meant to offend you.
You probably don't want to hear this, but I have been through the death of a very close parent, my father. No, I'm not saying I know how you feel, we all deal with grief in different ways, but I was angry and super-sensitive all at the same time, so I understand where you are coming from, I think. If you think about it you may realize that cutting off your best friend of 14 years is only going to be one more thing for you to deal with on top of everything else.
You are Jim's best friend, he loves you like a brother, more than a brother, and it would be a shame to end a friendship over this. I'm not trying to minimize your hurt feelings over this situation, but please think about it, would Jim ever say anything intentionally malicious to you?
You obviously don't know me as well as I thought you did, if you think I would say something hurtful on purpose. I don't know anything about music, or playing guitar, or your religion, and I don't presume to. Evidently I offended you deeply, and again, I am sorry. If you and Jim could work this out, I hope that you will. If it's me you have issues with, come over when I'm at work, or Jim could come over there, either way, I don't care, I'm not one to stand in the way of Jim's happiness, and I know playing guitars and hanging out with you makes him happy. I am that sort of person that I would step back and let you two have time to hang out without you having to deal with me.
Sincerely,
Megan
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