I'm Freaking Out
My husband called this morning, asking if I want to move to Eugene. I laughed and said "Uh, NO!". Apparently he's dead serious, his work needs a project manager to move down there and run a project for 4 years.
For those of you unfamiliar with the distance between Fist City and Eugene, it's about a 2½ hour drive. Now, I work here, all my friends are here, I've lived here since I was 4, my FATHER grew up here, I don't want to move. Period.
Let's say I was considering moving away..It would NOT be to Eugene! The only good thing about moving to Eugene, IMO is that I could go see UofO football games anytime I want. I could do that now, but instead of driving 2½ hours I could drive 15 minutes. Oh, and the Hub wants to move there. Other than that, I cannot think of one appealing thing about that town.
When I have to make big decisions, I like to make a list, so let's see what comes up:
Pros of moving toNowhere Land Eugene:
~Hub wants to.
~Duck Games.
~$10,000 raise and double the pension per year, plus 3 weeks of paid vacation for the Hub.
~Get a lot more house for the same amount of money.
~It's far away from my Meth-Head Ex-Husband.
~If I don't go, I'm afraid the Hub would resent me, cause he clearly wants to.
Cons:
~Salary instead of hourly, so if he works overtime, he doesn't get shit.
~Seriously, ALL my friends, my little bit of family, are here.
~Eugene is boring.
~Kids have to change schools.
~I have to step down from my throne at (IMO) the best bar I've ever worked at.
~I'm emotionally unstable, so a big change might send me over the edge...(maybe that's a bit dramatic, but I do cry over inconsequential shit, and so this would be a big one)
~I love my life the way it is, why fuck around with it?
~I don't go to church, so the only other place to meet new friends is...a bar!
~Therefore I may become a raging alcoholic, and is that really what the Hub signed up for when he married me? I think not!
~If we go and stay the 4 years and come back, would the Hub still have a job? They wouldn't need him cause they would have to replace him if he goes.
~It's much closer to the BTIL. Don't need that, for sure.
~Much further from Seattle, so any more Seahawks games would be out.
~My friends. (did I say that already?)
So, hence the title, I'm Freaking Out.
For those of you unfamiliar with the distance between Fist City and Eugene, it's about a 2½ hour drive. Now, I work here, all my friends are here, I've lived here since I was 4, my FATHER grew up here, I don't want to move. Period.
Let's say I was considering moving away..It would NOT be to Eugene! The only good thing about moving to Eugene, IMO is that I could go see UofO football games anytime I want. I could do that now, but instead of driving 2½ hours I could drive 15 minutes. Oh, and the Hub wants to move there. Other than that, I cannot think of one appealing thing about that town.
When I have to make big decisions, I like to make a list, so let's see what comes up:
Pros of moving to
~Hub wants to.
~Duck Games.
~$10,000 raise and double the pension per year, plus 3 weeks of paid vacation for the Hub.
~Get a lot more house for the same amount of money.
~It's far away from my Meth-Head Ex-Husband.
~If I don't go, I'm afraid the Hub would resent me, cause he clearly wants to.
Cons:
~Salary instead of hourly, so if he works overtime, he doesn't get shit.
~Seriously, ALL my friends, my little bit of family, are here.
~Eugene is boring.
~Kids have to change schools.
~I have to step down from my throne at (IMO) the best bar I've ever worked at.
~I'm emotionally unstable, so a big change might send me over the edge...(maybe that's a bit dramatic, but I do cry over inconsequential shit, and so this would be a big one)
~I love my life the way it is, why fuck around with it?
~I don't go to church, so the only other place to meet new friends is...a bar!
~Therefore I may become a raging alcoholic, and is that really what the Hub signed up for when he married me? I think not!
~If we go and stay the 4 years and come back, would the Hub still have a job? They wouldn't need him cause they would have to replace him if he goes.
~It's much closer to the BTIL. Don't need that, for sure.
~Much further from Seattle, so any more Seahawks games would be out.
~My friends. (did I say that already?)
So, hence the title, I'm Freaking Out.
posted by The Mayor @1/11/2006 09:07:00 AM
3 Comments:
Change is hard, but change also brings growth and a new perspective that you would never have had before. I have moved so many times in my life - From CA to Saudi Arabia to Texas to New York to Pennsylvania to New Jersey and back to California. It has giving me so much insight on people, life and myself. I cried sometimes because it was so hard, but wouldn't change it if I could. You do have some things to work out first though...Whatever you choose will be the right one!
Change is hard especially when you have kids. How far is teh drive? Can't he commute? My husband commutes an average of 2.5 hours every day one way and it's not so bad once you get used to it. I would encourage him to do that. I've never left the town I grew up in and so moving to me would be really scary but if you aren't into it....pray about it and maybe you might get an answer....
Well, Kids, I think it has worked itself out, my fabulous Hub said he wants to do it to climb the food chain, so to speak, but if I'm not comfortable with it, we won't, end of discussion. I'm so relieved right now!
Jules: He doesn't want to commute, he hates to drive, it's 2½ hours one way...they did give him the option of staying in a hotel during the week and coming home on weekends, but I work every weekend, and Monday nights, so I'd have to quit my job, which is part of the reason I don't want to go! I love my job, and that doesn't come along very often!
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