My InLaws are FREAKS!
You remember the BTIL? That stands for "Bible Thumping In Laws". Well, they stole the stepdaughter, etc, etc...
So I emailed the Hub's ex, we'll call her...hmmm, 1982, cause that's the year that called and wants it's hairdo back.
Anyway, I've been emailing 1982 back and forth about the fact that she doesn't give the Hub's messages to his son, Jr. So we had a little falling out, straightened it all out, it seemed to me that we both needed to get some things off our chests, mine were about her and her not fostering a relationship between her kids and their father, and hers were about the Hub, and what a shit he was when they were married. They divorced 12 years ago, she's remarried, build a fuckin' bridge and get over it! but I digress...
So the BTIL (father portion of the two) called the Hub today, and started going off on this and that, things that he read in MY emails to 1982, not him! She forwarded all my emails to the bastard! Gawd, what a cunt! So I'm completely pissed, and we are giving her money (for homeschooling, which we never agreed to, much less wanted, so she doesn't flip out and rain a shitstorm down upon the Hub, for child support (that SHE never wanted). It wasn't an issue when we had Stepspawn and she had Jr., but now we don't have Stepspawn (cause she's with the BTIL, if you click on the links you can get up to speed).
Here is my email rebuttal to her about the issues that came out today:
Hi 1982,
We will be sending you $100 as soon as you let me know where you would like me to send it, either to your house or your work, and the address again.
Please don't take this as an attack, I'm not trying to sound rude, but I am a little upset. I would've appreciated being asked if I minded if you sent my emails to the Hub's parents, I'm not happy about it, but it's done. If you want to have open communication with me, I would like our conversations to be between us. If I had something to say to them, I would have emailed them myself. Clearly, I do not wish to. Let me know if any future conversations will be forwarded on, or if you would like to keep things between us. I will choose my words depending on what you decide. There is no love lost between them and myself, apparently, so therefore I don't wish for them to be privy to anything I say to you, or anyone else for that matter, in my opinion, it's none of their business.
Anyone who has the audacity to tell my 11 year old stepdaughter that I (her stepmother) am going to hell, doesn't need to know about my life or conversations. That is but one of the things they've done to me, and I choose not to put myself in a position to interact with people that not only think of me that way, but tell my children (yes, I think of the Hub's kids as my children) that as well.
Now you know why I'd like our conversations kept private. Of course The Hub has read these emails, because he is Stepspawn's father, and I didn't think you would mind, but if you do, I'll not send them on to the Hub. Let me know.
Email me with whichever address you'd like the money sent to, and I will get it out as soon as I know.
Thank you.
The Mayor
I wrote it so if she does send it to them, they will know why I haven't spoken to them in 6 months, not that they give a shit, because clearly I don't matter.
So I emailed the Hub's ex, we'll call her...hmmm, 1982, cause that's the year that called and wants it's hairdo back.
Anyway, I've been emailing 1982 back and forth about the fact that she doesn't give the Hub's messages to his son, Jr. So we had a little falling out, straightened it all out, it seemed to me that we both needed to get some things off our chests, mine were about her and her not fostering a relationship between her kids and their father, and hers were about the Hub, and what a shit he was when they were married. They divorced 12 years ago, she's remarried, build a fuckin' bridge and get over it! but I digress...
So the BTIL (father portion of the two) called the Hub today, and started going off on this and that, things that he read in MY emails to 1982, not him! She forwarded all my emails to the bastard! Gawd, what a cunt! So I'm completely pissed, and we are giving her money (for homeschooling, which we never agreed to, much less wanted, so she doesn't flip out and rain a shitstorm down upon the Hub, for child support (that SHE never wanted). It wasn't an issue when we had Stepspawn and she had Jr., but now we don't have Stepspawn (cause she's with the BTIL, if you click on the links you can get up to speed).
Here is my email rebuttal to her about the issues that came out today:
Hi 1982,
We will be sending you $100 as soon as you let me know where you would like me to send it, either to your house or your work, and the address again.
Please don't take this as an attack, I'm not trying to sound rude, but I am a little upset. I would've appreciated being asked if I minded if you sent my emails to the Hub's parents, I'm not happy about it, but it's done. If you want to have open communication with me, I would like our conversations to be between us. If I had something to say to them, I would have emailed them myself. Clearly, I do not wish to. Let me know if any future conversations will be forwarded on, or if you would like to keep things between us. I will choose my words depending on what you decide. There is no love lost between them and myself, apparently, so therefore I don't wish for them to be privy to anything I say to you, or anyone else for that matter, in my opinion, it's none of their business.
Anyone who has the audacity to tell my 11 year old stepdaughter that I (her stepmother) am going to hell, doesn't need to know about my life or conversations. That is but one of the things they've done to me, and I choose not to put myself in a position to interact with people that not only think of me that way, but tell my children (yes, I think of the Hub's kids as my children) that as well.
Now you know why I'd like our conversations kept private. Of course The Hub has read these emails, because he is Stepspawn's father, and I didn't think you would mind, but if you do, I'll not send them on to the Hub. Let me know.
Email me with whichever address you'd like the money sent to, and I will get it out as soon as I know.
Thank you.
The Mayor
I wrote it so if she does send it to them, they will know why I haven't spoken to them in 6 months, not that they give a shit, because clearly I don't matter.
posted by The Mayor @1/26/2006 06:10:00 PM
5 Comments:
1982! LOL
Hub's dad called and left a message, he likes to put the blame on everyone but himself, so he said, "I don't know why you hung up, we were having a conversation that YOU led us into, ha ha ha, well, if you don't want to talk to me, I won't bother you, I'll NEVER CALL YOU AGAIN. (Hello, that is your son, and you have his kid!!!) But if you'd like to discuss this 'futher (he doesn't say further, it's futher) give me a call.
Fuck you buddy!
Just a word of advice (dont' take this wrong...) I'd completely stay out of it and let your husband deal with it because you are just going to look like a bitch...(I have had my own stepmother involved in my business and I am such a sweetie that we hang out occasionally but that doesn't mean I dont' get pissed when she interjects....)Dr. Phil says it ought to be between the bio parents that way it doesn't cause problems with the kids etc. You always will look like the good guy and not the scapegoat....
I do love the 1982 though because that is classic! Good luck. Just remember that all this affects the kids even if you don't see how it could because obviously they tell the kids. If you are always sweet as candy they can't say anything! Good luck!
Jules,
Too late, I already sent it. I appreciate your advice, though, although I've been looking like the bitch for months now, and I think- Fuck em. I feel like I needed to let her know that private conversations should stay private. I'm sure she forwarded this one onto them as well, and I kept that in mind when I did it.
Lungfung knows this-I don't give a shit what people think of me, family or not. Even if I sat back and kept my mouth shut, they would find some way to make me look bad, whether it be that I don't care, or whatever. I'm not the type to sit back and let people bash me or walk on me, and the kid already hates me, most likely because these people talk about me, but whatever.
Anyway, still haven't heard back from 1982, she probably needs to clear whatever she's gonna say with the BTIL, or maybe she's gonna sue us for child support, either way, I don't care. I thought about writing an email to the BTIL, but then thought better of it, and have decided to keep silent to them, if only so they wonder what I'm thinking.
The thing about the emails 1982 passed on was that they weren't even about them! There was no reason for her to send them onto them, everyone already likes her, still, she can do no wrong, and no matter who my Hub marries (there was another between 1982 and I) nobody is as great as she is.
Plus, they're nuts.
well....that's too bad. I know from bad experience that sometimes emails get misconstrued so maybe if you had a heart to heart in person it might work better. I doubt you are the type of person to be dominated....You seem like you speak your mind and maybe it might serve you better to get them all together in a room and bust them out about their behavior? Good luck!
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