Starting The New Year Off Right...
I have decided in all my wisdom (*eye roll*) not to hold grudges any more. I've been really angry with my Stepdaughter, StepSpawn (click it for a little history) so I shot off an email to her today.
Granted, there's some underlying "tones" in there, apparently she hates Church, living with her Grandparents, and homeschooling, so I was sure to ask about those particular things...
Hey Step Spawn!
Happy New Year! Hope you had a good Christmas, don't know if you are able to check your email, or if you are even using this one anymore, just wanted to say hello and see if you received your gift card? Hope you are still into Claire's, I figured you could find something you like there. Didn't really know what you were allowed to have there (obviously no pants or make-up) so I thought a gift card would allow you to buy what you want, be it Hello Kitty stuff, or whatever.
Anyway, hope the homeschooling is going well, and I hope you're having fun with the grandparents! How's church? Makin' any new friends there? I'm sure you are, you've always been able to make friends no matter where you are.
Talk to you soon, write back if you want...
The Mayor
Ah, I feel better, I've extended the olive branch, we shall see what comes back, if anything...
Granted, there's some underlying "tones" in there, apparently she hates Church, living with her Grandparents, and homeschooling, so I was sure to ask about those particular things...
Hey Step Spawn!
Happy New Year! Hope you had a good Christmas, don't know if you are able to check your email, or if you are even using this one anymore, just wanted to say hello and see if you received your gift card? Hope you are still into Claire's, I figured you could find something you like there. Didn't really know what you were allowed to have there (obviously no pants or make-up) so I thought a gift card would allow you to buy what you want, be it Hello Kitty stuff, or whatever.
Anyway, hope the homeschooling is going well, and I hope you're having fun with the grandparents! How's church? Makin' any new friends there? I'm sure you are, you've always been able to make friends no matter where you are.
Talk to you soon, write back if you want...
The Mayor
Ah, I feel better, I've extended the olive branch, we shall see what comes back, if anything...
posted by The Mayor @1/02/2006 02:43:00 PM
6 Comments:
Good luck. Remember, her time horizon is very short (bad decisions) and this game plays out over decades . . . oh, and yes, been there.
I thought it was a very, very nice letter to her. If you're not sure about her email account, maybe a handwritten note would be a good option?
Thank you for dropping by and saying hello! I'll be back to visit soon :)
well....we have both extended that olive branch have we not? so....we shall see what happens?
not my business but why does she live with her grandparents and not one of her parents?
John, thank you for the support, I would love to hear about your experience sometime.
Melissa, I may have to write a handwritten note, it came back undeliverable, and my only other email option is the BTIL's email, and I don't really want to send it there!
Lungfung, I don't know if I would have her back here, too much turmoil. If it came down to my marriage being at stake, I suppose I would try to stick it out. I don't think it will though...
Jules, ah, long story, but the breakdown is this: Jim has 2 kids from his first marriage, StepSpawn and another, we'll call him JJ, he's 12. They lived in Cal. with their mother and stepfather, the stepfather has been around since JJ was in the womb, therefore treats JJ as his own. StepSpawn is a teenage handful, because her mother doesn't give her enough positive attention, she goes out and tries to find attention any way she possibly can, negative. She called upon us to take SS April of 2004, Jim was thrilled, so was I, since we had always gotten along on visits. Now I'm not blaming her completely, but she has zero respect for anyone, she sneaks and lies more than anyone I have ever known, skips school, is all about boys (she has low self esteem, she's a beautiful girl but had developed brachial plexus palsy during birth (broken collarbone, ruined nerves) so one arm is about 30% useful, and smaller than the other, not that you would notice, but she's self concious about it) anyway, nice as all hell to your face, then lying and sneaking and trying to pit people (parents, kids and parents) against each other every chance she gets. She ran away last July (which is partly why I started this blog, to vent about the drama with her) and my BTILs offered to take her for a bit. While she was "visiting" the BTILs and her mother, who has decided she's spent enough time "raising that monster", her words, decided that she would be better off with the BTIL, and not us. We had no say in the matter, since we didn't legally get custody of her, so Jim's pissed, I'm fine with it, my house is much quieter, and SS thinks hanging with the BTIL is the fastest road back to her mother's house, which she is sadly mistaken about. Her mother and Stepfather and JJ (who has ADHD, but I feel that is just an excuse for his horrendous behavior, seeing as how every medication they've tried does not work, and he literally tried to strangle my oldest son last time he was here, hence, he hasn't been back for a visit) are a perfect little family, and don't want SS's acting out to affect them anymore. That was sooo not short, but you get the idea. If you get some free time, check out some of my earlier posts, I was writing about all the drama as it was unfolding...phew.
Laurie, not wrong at all! why else to we blog? to be funny! what I think is funny is that since reading other people's blogs, I'm not evil for being mad at a kid, be it mine or step, everybody's doin' it, man!
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