BTIL, Ex-wives, and Hell: Let's Discuss.
Okay, first, let's recap: This has been an ongoing drama in my life for the better part of a year, and since some of you have recently joined me, I feel I should get you up to speed.
Stepspawn (16YO Stepdaughter) was living with us, after her mother (1982) decided she couldn't deal with the monster she created anymore. She came to live with us in April of 2004 (14 at the time).
Skipping school, smoking pot, getting a job but not showing up, running off with her BF instead, etc. She had already fallen into this way of behaving before she came her, she just continued with different people in different surroundings.
July 2005: Ran away one evening. Called the police and they found her 2 days later, at her BF's house.
The Hub called his Dad (BTIL) and asked if Stepspawn could come over for a visit while we figured out how we were gonna deal with her, ie: keep her from running away, and she could cool off (yes, cause she was pissed at us?!!?) for a week or two.
So The Hub took her over there, and a week later, his Dad called and said, "How about if Stepspawn just lives with us, and you could come visit her?"
Needless to say, that went over like a ton of bricks, and there was some emails sent back and forth.
We went down there to their place for a Sit-down with Stepspawn, the BTIL, 1982 and her Hub. This is how it turned out.
Flash forward, not too many calls, no visits, although they've driven to Cali twice to visit her mom, they won't drive 3 hours up here for her to visit her dad.
They tried to recruit my other Stepdaughter (with the different mother, we'll call her "Saddlebag", for she tans too much) and I have a decent relationship with her, so we've been corresponding about them and the situation.
So in yesterday's post, I told of how they are all moving to Arkansas. I convinced the Hub to at least invite Stepspawn to come and live with us, because I feel she is being pretty much brainwashed into this wacky way of life/religion, and decided to set my feelings aside for the good of her well-being. He hasn't spoken to her yet, but he will.
Last night, the BTIL called Saddlebag and invited her to dinner. Thankfully T is with us, so she couldn't be subjected to the mind control. Now, this whole time, Saddlebag has heard everything they've been saying and doing to us, (like telling T that I'm going to Hell!) and although she's catholic, she has agreed that they are outta control.
After spending 5 fucking hours with them last night, now all of a sudden, "They're not so bad!" WTF?? They actually admitted telling T that I'm going to hell, and they're not so bad???
I proceeded to tell her that they have shut out every family member they've ever had, (I didn't tell her that they've wanted nothing to do with her until they alienated every one else, but it's true) and she promptly hung up on me! Wow. First of all, you're like, 37, how mature. I was prepared to listen to her take on the whole thing, but it was starting to sound as though they had "gotten to" her. So, I'm blogging about this because for now it's keeping me from shooting off emails in blind rage, and I have been trying really hard to stay out of it. If they didn't have my stepdaughter, I really feel that the Hub wouldn't ever deal with them again. He was more pissed about the fact that they drove within an hour of our house to meet with Saddlebag, but can't be bothered to stop by and let us see Stepspawn. I agree. BTIL tells the Hub he needs to nurture a relationship with his kids, yet won't agree to even meet us?? Haven't invited the Hub over to visit with her? Nothing? Why, because I'm the ultimate sinner in their eyes, and they don't want me around? Because every time I see them they are trying to bible-thump me, so I get drunk and tell them to censor they're sermons?
Let me clarify here, I have nothing against Christians, at all. These people are the type of folks that give true Christians a bad name. I'm not an atheist, I consider myself Agnostic, but I am spiritual. I take what I can use from different religions and ways of thinking. I'm morally sound, but apparently that's not good enough for them. They tried to get me to get baptized a while back, I told them no thanks, I already was, Episcopalian when I was a baby, they said (get this) "That doesn't count!"
Seriously, why? Because you say so??
I would like some feedback from you all, I'm not trolling for comments, but what do you think? Am I outta my mind here??
Stepspawn (16YO Stepdaughter) was living with us, after her mother (1982) decided she couldn't deal with the monster she created anymore. She came to live with us in April of 2004 (14 at the time).
Skipping school, smoking pot, getting a job but not showing up, running off with her BF instead, etc. She had already fallen into this way of behaving before she came her, she just continued with different people in different surroundings.
July 2005: Ran away one evening. Called the police and they found her 2 days later, at her BF's house.
The Hub called his Dad (BTIL) and asked if Stepspawn could come over for a visit while we figured out how we were gonna deal with her, ie: keep her from running away, and she could cool off (yes, cause she was pissed at us?!!?) for a week or two.
So The Hub took her over there, and a week later, his Dad called and said, "How about if Stepspawn just lives with us, and you could come visit her?"
Needless to say, that went over like a ton of bricks, and there was some emails sent back and forth.
We went down there to their place for a Sit-down with Stepspawn, the BTIL, 1982 and her Hub. This is how it turned out.
Flash forward, not too many calls, no visits, although they've driven to Cali twice to visit her mom, they won't drive 3 hours up here for her to visit her dad.
They tried to recruit my other Stepdaughter (with the different mother, we'll call her "Saddlebag", for she tans too much) and I have a decent relationship with her, so we've been corresponding about them and the situation.
So in yesterday's post, I told of how they are all moving to Arkansas. I convinced the Hub to at least invite Stepspawn to come and live with us, because I feel she is being pretty much brainwashed into this wacky way of life/religion, and decided to set my feelings aside for the good of her well-being. He hasn't spoken to her yet, but he will.
Last night, the BTIL called Saddlebag and invited her to dinner. Thankfully T is with us, so she couldn't be subjected to the mind control. Now, this whole time, Saddlebag has heard everything they've been saying and doing to us, (like telling T that I'm going to Hell!) and although she's catholic, she has agreed that they are outta control.
After spending 5 fucking hours with them last night, now all of a sudden, "They're not so bad!" WTF?? They actually admitted telling T that I'm going to hell, and they're not so bad???
I proceeded to tell her that they have shut out every family member they've ever had, (I didn't tell her that they've wanted nothing to do with her until they alienated every one else, but it's true) and she promptly hung up on me! Wow. First of all, you're like, 37, how mature. I was prepared to listen to her take on the whole thing, but it was starting to sound as though they had "gotten to" her. So, I'm blogging about this because for now it's keeping me from shooting off emails in blind rage, and I have been trying really hard to stay out of it. If they didn't have my stepdaughter, I really feel that the Hub wouldn't ever deal with them again. He was more pissed about the fact that they drove within an hour of our house to meet with Saddlebag, but can't be bothered to stop by and let us see Stepspawn. I agree. BTIL tells the Hub he needs to nurture a relationship with his kids, yet won't agree to even meet us?? Haven't invited the Hub over to visit with her? Nothing? Why, because I'm the ultimate sinner in their eyes, and they don't want me around? Because every time I see them they are trying to bible-thump me, so I get drunk and tell them to censor they're sermons?
Let me clarify here, I have nothing against Christians, at all. These people are the type of folks that give true Christians a bad name. I'm not an atheist, I consider myself Agnostic, but I am spiritual. I take what I can use from different religions and ways of thinking. I'm morally sound, but apparently that's not good enough for them. They tried to get me to get baptized a while back, I told them no thanks, I already was, Episcopalian when I was a baby, they said (get this) "That doesn't count!"
Seriously, why? Because you say so??
I would like some feedback from you all, I'm not trolling for comments, but what do you think? Am I outta my mind here??
posted by The Mayor @2/12/2006 12:09:00 PM
1 Comments:
Okay, Saddlebag McSharpie called today, and apologized profusely because apparently her phone died right at the moment where I thought she hung up on me...convenient.
Stepspawn, sadly, is a lost cause. Her mother won't go against the BTIL, because as long as she doesn't have to deal with her, she doesn't care. Saddlebag spoke with Stepspawn briefly, and found out that Stepspawn doesn't want to go to college, cause what's the point? She's just gonna get married and have kids as soon as she finishes high school anyway. Her words. Clearly the BTIL are shitbags, and shouldn't we support our kids' wildest dreams? That wasn't in the plan when she was living here, she had shitty grades, but still wanted to be something other than a religious housefrau with kids. I think they've completely brainwashed her, and there's nothing we can do. I will put forth effort into the kids we can do something about, Spawn, Deuce, and T. Sounds harsh, but I guess things don't always work out the way you want them to...I'm drunk, BTW.
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